I am a heavy user of Find a Grave, both to locate ancestors/in-laws and to memorialize them.
Above, what Find a Grave says about itself and its goal, a "virtual cemetery experience." The site has more than 265 million memorials.
Over the years, I've added 600 memorial pages and photographed 1,200 graves. Not a very big number, but how many memorials isn't why I participate.
Usually I photograph dozens of nearby stones when I'm at a cemetery visiting an ancestor's grave. Very few of those extra photos are of people on my family tree, but I create memorial pages and add them so that others may benefit by being able to view the stones and the basic info about each individual.
Gritty details?
Recently, another Find a Grave user sent me an edit request about a non-ancestor's memorial page that I created several years ago, after photographing a stone near my ancestor's final resting place. This edit wanted to have the bio note that the deceased was a reputed drug dealer who had been murdered and was found dead with drugs next to the body--drugs that then disappeared. The edit also included this deceased's underworld nickname. So far as I know, the person submitting the edit request is not a relative.
After doing my own research and verifying most of the story, which is indeed grim, I considered how much detail to put on the memorial page. In the end, I decided to omit much of the grit but include the details that this person was suspected of dealing drugs and the death was due to murder. Also I did not publish the nickname, which was connected to the deceased's ancestry.
Search the bio field for key words
If you've never searched the biography field, here's how to do it. I discovered searching bios on Find a Grave that the word "murder" yields more than 88,000 results. That's .0003 of all the memorial pages on the site--a really tiny number.
Some of the entries are gritty and detailed, others not so much. Searching for "drug dealer" returns only 921 results. Go ahead and try searching for other words...I was surprised at the number of bios that mention specific illegal drugs, for instance.
In my case, when I didn't accept the verbatim edits suggested by another user, I explained my reasoning, succinctly, to the person who submitted the suggestion. My thought is that anyone who is looking at that person's memorial and sees a word like "murder" can easily do a broad online search and obtain a whole lot more detail with a click or two. I would prefer not to include a lot of gritty details.
Confirm edits before accepting?
Another consideration is what to do with suggested edits for memorials I manage that are not for my ancestors. I rarely know whether these basic edits suggested by other Find a Grave users are factually correct.
So I first look at the stone for clues and if the edits correspond, I accept right away.
However, if no clues are on the stone or are found on memorials of linked relatives, I do a quick check of genealogy websites to find the deceased in a death record, for instance. This is a quick check, not a deep dive. If it seems accurate, I accept. If not, I try to dig a bit deeper but I don't spend a lot of time.
This year, someone has been requesting a lot of edits to memorials I posted after photographing stones while browsing cemeteries abroad. (Even on vacation, genealogy is on my mind.) In this cemetery, so many of the memorials were of people with the same name (and few details in US-based databases) that I was unable to easily determine whether to accept or decline edits.
I accepted edits that looked OK, based on other memorials in that overseas cemetery. Then I did something I've never done before: I transferred ownership of all my memorials from that one cemetery to Find a Grave.
Find a Grave will accept your memorials
It's very simple to transfer a memorial you manage to Find a Grave. Here's a link to the support page explaining the process. Basically, I used 8 as the number of the user that will now manage each memorial. Today, all the memorials I once created and managed in that overseas cemetery are being managed by Find a Grave. Any future edits will be reviewed by Find a Grave, not me.
What do you think about gritty details on Find a Grave memorial pages? Do you confirm edits to memorials that are not of your ancestors before approving them?