Sunday, February 5, 2023

Too Many Aunts and Uncles on Find a Grave?


My maternal grandmother had 10 siblings, and my paternal grandmother had 8 siblings. Most of these people married, so I'm a niece (and great-niece) by marriage as well. That's a lot of aunts, uncles, great aunts, and great uncles. 

I've been honoring their memory by not only adding them to my family trees but also creating or improving memorial pages on Find a Grave. This includes linking my ancestors' memorial pages to the pages of their parents, siblings, and children.

When I add a new memorial page, Find a Grave asks whether I'm a close relative. I answer yes and then click the box to reflect the kind of relationship. As shown directly above, the "niece/nephew" box also includes an option for "great-niece/great-nephew."

For the first time yesterday, I discovered that Find a Grave limits how many people a single user can claim in a niece or nephew relationship. At top of this post, you can see the notice displayed on Find a Grave when I attempted to have my niece relationship displayed on the memorial page of an uncle who died in the 1980s--someone I'd known and hugged.

Find a Grave's explanation is:

We limit the number of memorials you can manage within each relationship type to help prevent abuse.

There is an option to appeal to the support center...which I may do at some point. For now, at least I'm the manager of these memorial pages and can add bite-sized bios, photos, etc. 


  1. A possible work-around - create another FindAGrave account.

    1. Thanks for this good idea!

    2. No, that is NOT a good idea because Find A Grave only allows one account per person. If they find out you have 2 accounts, the accounts will be merged. AND if you do it to many times, your account will become "Record Not Available" (in other words, they remove your account and you are no longer welcome on the site).

    3. In the end, I didn't open any other accounts, and thank you for your comment!

  2. I bet if you can show them you really do have all these aunts and uncles, they will grant you a waiver. I understand their concern!

  3. I had a similar experience. I have been adding my 40+ years of family history to findagrave. It's a full-time job. I never cared if my relationship to the person was acknowledged on findagrave, however, since they updated to include, I added great niece where applicable. I rec'd a denial the other day and was told I was abusive to this designation that I had reached a limit of 30+. It shocked me and set me back. My great grandfather, had 19 children. Findagrave needs to use another word other than "abusive" which is such a negative connotation. Their rules state direct, in-law and adopted for family designation. I think they need to review as 30 doesn't even begin to cover my family niece relationships.
    I had to regroup and remember what I was working so hard to do which is to remember those who had come before me for future generations. Findagrave is having growing pains and I hope they figure out to to promote positivity within their web site which is such a wonderful genealogy tool for connecting families. Shirley